Whether you’re using it consciously
or not, your mind creates your life.
Your biggest asset in life is your mind, but it can be your biggest detractor if you let it go unmanaged.
You keep finding yourself in the same frustrating situations: the same terrible relationship, the same fight with your mom, the same self-destructive behaviors over & over again but you don’t know how to stop.
You’re too busy trying to mastermind your behavior and appearance and personality and achievements in order to get approval and validation from others so that you can feel happy, but somehow you just never feel good enough.
You’re terrified of abandonment and being alone, and you’ll do whatever it takes to keep someone around...even if they’re not good for you. You just can’t set boundaries, though you know you probably need to.
I know what it’s like to struggle with these things. I was there for over a decade, and I almost ended my life because of it. But I promise you: if you’re reading this, that means you have already taken a HUGE step towards prioritizing yourself in a way that may seem scary but that is essential for your wellbeing. This first step is the most important part.
When you schedule your free session, I’ll send you a link to our zoom call. You can show up with video or without, totally up to you, and you don’t have to do any prior preparation in order to “be ready” for the call. The messier the thoughts, the better. I will help you work through one of your biggest struggles right now, and you will come away from the call with clarity and peace that you couldn’t imagine before it.
If you want to experience the same incredible transformation in just an hour, click here to schedule your call.
That little voice in your head saying “not now, it’s not the right time, maybe later, one phone call won’t make a difference, I’m not ready, I should just be able to do this by myself” is the exact voice that is keeping you stuck in a cycle of people-pleasing and self-neglect, and that’s the exact voice that you and I will practice moving past so that you can live the life you are dreaming of. We will do this in this free call, and you can go out and start living a better life immediately after.
“But Sophie, I’ve been to therapy like a million times.”
So have all of my clients. So had I. And it just wasn’t what I needed. I didn’t want to dwell on my past. I wanted to stop my self-sabotaging cycles and move forward. So I found a coach who really understood my problem, I decided to begin this work, and I created a life that I could have postponed for who knows how long. I’m so glad I didn’t wait. You don’t have to wait, either.
“But Sophie, I don’t know if you can help me….my situation is pretty crazy.”
I’ve seen and heard it all, and I’ve experienced most of it myself. There is nothing you could bring to the call that we won’t be able to work through. My job as your coach is to be unconditionally loving and non-judgmental, and I take this approach 100% of the time. I welcome you to bring your full self to the call, knowing that you will be received with love and compassion, and belief in you even when you don’t yet believe in yourself.
“But Sophie, how could one phone call ever make a difference?”
Because I know what I’m doing. I’ve got you. The testimonials above are from women who came to the call not knowing what to expect, and who left with different mindsets, beliefs, and attitudes than they came with. Whatever you’re struggling with today, you can bring it to the call and we will work through it in our hour.
“But Sophie, I already know what I need to do in order to
move out of my codependent habits.”
Amazing. So are you living these improvements on a daily basis in all areas? Or is there something holding you back from really putting the things you’ve learned into practice? If you do know what you need to do but just aren’t doing it, there’s a block there & we can work through it in our hour together.
“But Sophie, I should just be able to do this by myself.”
Says who? The toxic independence that keeps you trying to be everything to everyone, while neglecting yourself day after day? Is that really a way of being that you want to continue? What if I told you that it was a sign of strength to ask for help? You don’t have to source your sense of pride from your ability to endure pain and suffering anymore. A new way to live is available to you if you’re willing to say “you know what? I am willing to believe that asking for help with this is okay, and even admirable. I am willing to decide that I deserve to be happier than I am right now. I am willing to decide that I can trust myself to know what I want, and I want to feel better. I am willing to be vulnerable enough to admit that I don’t know how to do this by myself. I am worth this hour. I am worth this attention and energy. I am worthy.”
“But Sophie, I’m too busy this month.”
And you will be busy the following month. There will never be a time when your brain(that loves routine and hates change) will just happily allow you to do something that is identity-threatening, like deciding to no longer be a people-pleaser, or deciding to set boundaries with your mom or your boyfriend.
It’s not a matter of “when do I have the time”. It’s a matter of “I am unwilling to go another day living like this when I know a happier, better life is available to me”. That’s the choice I made, and that’s the choice you get to make right now if you want to.
Here’s what my clients have said about just this first call with me:
“There really is something to this work. Honestly you helped me so much and I’m glad you asked me to do a free session with you because I was being shy and I wasn’t going to do it. But it really helped me to have you guide me through my problem one on one. I have so much more clarity now. It’s also really inspiring to know that you overcame this and I can too. Thank you so much.”
“I feel a lot better. Thank you so much. Life changing stuff for sure.”
“That 30 minutes was incredible. Thank you for all of your help. I need to pay you for that.”
(nope, not gonna happen, this free session is TRULY free)
never thought I could get here. How did that happen in just an hour?”
“I just wanted to thank you for all of the coaching throughout the past 6 months. You helped me immensely. I feel incredibly lucky to have had the opportunity to coach with you, and am excited for each and every client who has the same privilege. You are a phenomenal coach, and the world is better because of the work you are doing.”
Thank you so much Sophie <3 These calls are so powerful. I feel like I’ve done so much and looking back I see how things are so different. The work we’re doing is really fun. If we hadn’t been doing this work together, I would be spiraling in quarantine. I’m really happy with where I am because I didn’t think I could ever get here, and I’m really excited to continue doing this work.
“Coaching is one of those things that often sounds a little too good to be true, or can easily be dismissed as unnecessary, something to be pushed off for an ambiguous "later." I've had several years of great experience seeing a therapist and I consider myself to be someone who is in tune with her emotions, so I wasn't entirely sure I "needed" coaching. This will probably just be a reiteration of mental tools I already have, I thought.
On one account, I wasn't wrong. I didn't need coaching. I could have continued on the way I was, and I'm sure I would have lived a perfectly adequate life navigating the ups and downs and trying and trying, whenever it became relevant, to cope with my bad habits and unhealthy ways of thinking.
On the other hand, however, I completely underestimated the power of Sophie's guidance. When I say that my life was changed after the very first call she and I had, I'm not exaggerating. I know it sounds too good to be true. It sounds like I'm just gassing this up. It feels like I should have had to struggle harder, to get to a point where the very fabric of my life was altered.
But it's the truth.
It wasn't that the call was perfect or seamless--honestly, at first I felt so awkward and exposed. But Sophie knows exactly how to meet you right where you're at, and she uses a gentle strength completely unique to her style that helps you recognize the parts of your life you have the power to change. (Hint: it's all of them. And that's not an exaggeration, either.) For me, that meant undoing decades of insidious, self-sabotaging habits that had defined who I was as a person. Sophie literally took the biggest struggle of my entire life and walked me through how to solve it in a matter of hours.
It's okay to live an okay life. But today I feel like I am truly alive, and it's thanks to Sophie. I can attest that her coaching will translate into visible, immediate results in your mind and right before your eyes.
Even if it sounds unbelievable, that is a fact.”
“your work is incredible and has done so much for me. Working with you has forced me in the best way possible--beautifully and brutally--to look at things that I needed to look at. Sometimes in life we shy away from things instead of looking at them because it’s not super cozy or it makes us feel scared, because being the greatest version of ourselves can actually be scary. But you have made me look at all of the details and the things that are required to get to where I want to be. You have beautifully transformed the way I think about those things and the way I approach life. And there are a million other things I could say. You also do this thing where in life we want these goals but we have this habit of being vague about them so we just think in our heads “well I want this” but we don’t actually look at it hard in detail. In order to get those goals we have to get specific and clear and you are a HUGE part of the process of doing that. You actually made me define my goals and define the steps I need to take to get those goals. You helped me see that I am fully capable of doing these things and fully capable of holding myself accountable to creating the life of my dreams. This is an unbelievable gift you’ve given me through your work.”
“I feel a lot better. Thank you so much.
Life changing stuff for sure.”
“Thank you for all of the incredible insight today! You’re the perfect fit & have already helped me feel worlds more confident in my decision making even though we’ve only chatted a few times. Thank you.”
“Your follow up emails are PURE GOLD.
They bring so much value!”