Sophie ShilohDec 14, 20202 minChoosing Not to OvereatI want to tell you about something that happened yesterday that blew my mind. First, I’ll mention that this week alone, I have seen and...
Sophie ShilohDec 14, 20202 minYour Brain's Brita FilterMany of us know that it’s important to pay attention to the thoughts we think daily, but do you actually know why that is? I’ll tell you...
Sophie ShilohDec 14, 20202 minWhat Thoughts Are You Choosing to Think?When we think thoughts like: “I never finish what I start,” “I’m a perfectionist,” “I just can’t find the time to start that project,“...
Sophie ShilohDec 14, 20202 minMore Intimacy is the Answer You've Been Looking ForDid the title of this blog post scare you? Does the thought of opening yourself up to more intimacy make you want to retreat and escape...
Sophie ShilohDec 14, 20202 minFear Disguised as ProtectionOne way that we often avoid the intimacy (aka the vulnerability) that we’re so afraid of is by having an all or nothing mentality. The...
Sophie ShilohDec 14, 20202 minAre You Curious or Critical?Continuing our conversation from yesterday’s blog post on how a fear of intimacy is affecting the most important areas of your life, ...
Sophie ShilohDec 14, 20203 minAre You Afraid of Intimacy?I’ll just come right out and say it: most of us are afraid of intimacy whether we’re aware of it or not. Most people think that having a...
Sophie ShilohDec 14, 20202 minWhat is the Cost of Ignoring Your Pain?As recovering codependents, part of our journey is knowing that even though we have the capacity to endure something, we simply choose...
Sophie ShilohDec 14, 20202 minSurvival and ShameOne residual symptom of codependency is perfectionism, and one area in which this affects many codependents and recovering codependents...
Sophie ShilohDec 14, 20202 minStop Doing Things You Don't Want to DoIf you’re anything like me, you bristled at reading the title of this post, and at the concept that you could simply not do things you...
Sophie ShilohDec 14, 20202 minBreaking the Cycle (All By Yourself)Some of my clients come to me wanting things to change in their lives, not realizing that the power to change these things lies squarely...
Sophie ShilohDec 14, 20203 minLies We Tell OurselvesEvery single day, over 60,000 thoughts run through our minds. Most of these thoughts are habitual, unconscious thoughts that we never...
Sophie ShilohDec 14, 20203 minBoundary BasicsBoundaries are the BB cream of the self help world. Everyone needs them. They are essential…but sometimes we get it twisted because we...
Sophie ShilohDec 14, 20204 minThe Consequences of Being in Emotional ChildhoodEmotional Childhood is when we make other people or circumstances responsible for how we feel. It’s when we fail to take responsibility...
Sophie ShilohDec 14, 20204 minPeople-Pleasing is LyingI’m comin’ out swinging, you guys. It is ON. First, we’ll do a little diagnostic quiz, because I grew up reading CosmoGirl and I will...
Sophie ShilohDec 14, 20203 minHow to Acknowledge, Feel, & Process Difficult FeelingsHere is what I know: our emotions serve a purpose, and we can only realize and benefit from that purpose when we stop resisting our...
Sophie ShilohDec 14, 20203 minLoving the ProcessSo. Yesterday we talked about wanting. We talked about allowing desire, acknowledging it, honoring it, letting it guide you, and enjoying...
Sophie ShilohDec 14, 20202 minWhat Do You Want?“What do you want?" This question terrified me for so long. Terrified me, seriously. Maybe you can relate. Years ago, my coach asked me...
Sophie ShilohDec 14, 20202 minWhatever it TakesA few years ago, I started a jewelry company that is still going strong today. So now that you know that this story will make sense. One...
Sophie ShilohDec 14, 20202 minCodependency in Disguise“I just want him to compliment me more.” “Why can’t she anticipate my needs and just do what she knows will make me feel better?” “I...